Both my daughter and my niece have shared with me how much they enjoyed a blogger from Minneapolis who really speaks to them and their generation (Millenial). Although I’m in a way different generation, I finally followed this girl and found her posts, ideas, and even online training to be spot on for anyone trying to live their most authentic life and making changes for the better.
Since ’tis the time of year for goals and dreams and vows to change all of our bad habits and endless list-making (for us list-makers) of the things I plan to do more of or less of or better this year, when I ran across her post about “Why you need an ‘Every Damn Day’ list + how to create one” . I knew for sure I did actually love her.
“It’s a perfect world and I awake to songbirds, cooing me into consciousness. I eat a surprisingly delicious, kale-filled breakfast and then walk the dog while simultaneously meditating.
I settle into a lovely day of writing, phone calls, and catching up with friends. I am wearing a cute outfit, my hair looks amazing, and my home is miraculously spotless. I AM A PARAGON OF POSITIVITY AND PRODUCTIVITY!!!
But, sadly, this isn’t a perfect world.
On any given day, it’s entirely possible that I will sleep late, work myself into a headache, avoid phone calls, and/or eat popcorn for every meal.
Life happens! Deadlines change, priorities shift, and sometimes I just don’t want to put on real pants, okay?
So how do we keep our lives from derailing when things get busy? How do we keep making tiny, incremental steps towards the life we want when we’re nearly too frazzled to function?
We make and use an Every Damn Day List.”
Right? She gets me. I need a list to remind me of all the things I need to do even if I’ve been doing them every single day for most of my life. And there’s a reason! She gets me!
“…this Every Damn Day List – keep us from throwing in the towel in every blessed area of our lives.
They dramatically reduce the number of days that we toss up our hands, declare the entire day a write off, and settle into a funk of bad decisions.
If you have an Every Damn Day List, no day will ever be a complete write off.
No matter what professional, social, financial, or dietary decisions you make, if you follow your Every Damn Day List, there will be at least a few choices that point you in the right direction.
Stayed in your sweats all day, binge watching Queer Eye, and eating pudding cups? At least you walked the dog and made your bed!
Flicked someone off in traffic, ignored your mom’s text, and missed the due date on your library book? At least you complimented your barista’s shirt and ate an apple!”
For me, it’s about being kinder to everyone – especially me! We are the hardest on ourselves. Climbing into bed each night conscious that my house is still a mess, I didn’t get those samples in the mail, I didn’t do one minute of Tai Chi and I had 2 glasses of wine again! Aargh! After 64 years I still can’t get my shit together and be productive?
WAIT A MINUTE! I worked, I ate, I made food, I messaged a friend, I did errands, I fed the pets, I chatted with my daughter, I created a boatload of graphics and designs not only for my business but for so many others. Why am I so fast to say I didn’t get anything done?
My friend Pam is a master tracker. Her calendar is filled to the brim, and she marks off every item with a color-coded highlighter so she can see what she accomplished. But to me, it seems a little silly to write down “make my bed” every day in my planner.
So…. the Every Damn Day list!
“These four questions will help you create your own Every Damn Day List.
What’s the smallest possible action that will make your space feel nicer?
- Spend five minutes cleaning the kitchen
- Make the bed
- Run the Roomba (no, I will never stop proselytizing about Roombas!!!)
What’s the smallest possible action that will make you feel healthier?
- Go outside for 20 minutes
- Drink two glasses of water
- Eat at least one fruit or vegetable
What’s the smallest possible action that will make you feel better emotionally?
- Say something nice to someone
- Look at old photos on Facebook
- Send a funny text to a friend or family member
What’s the smallest possible action that will make you feel on top of your life?
- Wear perfume or cologne
- Spend five minutes replying or deleting old emails
- Check your bank account balance”
I’ve started on my list. My NEW list. For 2019. Where I am being kinder to myself and celebrating my somewhat crazy but extremely productive life.
IN CASE YOU’RE WONDERING, HERE’S MY EVERY DAMN DAY LIST
- Drink a gallon of water
- Get outside every day for a walk. Even a short one.
- Play Tai Chi
- Follow the 12 hr on/12 hr off rule with my phone (this is a goal for 2019)
- Connect with 3 people every day – offline or on
- Try to eat a veggie with each meal
- Make the bed
That’s it! That’s all! None of this is ground-breaking or even particularly hard. If I wanted to, I could get this all done in an hour.
I could spend the rest of my day, totally running around trying to multi-task and failing miserably, but if I spent the hour before bed doing these things, I’d still end the day on the positive. And celebrate my success! Because our lives are made up of a million little things that are called living.
Terry Kempfert is an Anti-Aging and Creative Lifestyle Consultant and artist that lives in Central Minnesota, motivating and helping people to be their best at every age.
Nic has health care through his employer thankfully; however, like many Minnesotans, every year he has to reevaluate to see what plan will help him most. He has frequent doctor visits – once a Bone Marrow Transplant (BMT) patient, always a BMT patient. He knows how critical having the best possible plan is for his budget.
This year his HSA changed, and although he is able to use this fund, his deductible is higher which was an unexpected additional burden. He recently had to go back on his immunosuppressant drugs – he has Graft versus Host disease and was experiencing a flare-up. $650 out of pocket just to get back on these meds. GVH flares are common after a Stem Cell Transplant, and he experiences things such as respiratory problems (he only has one lung and it is compromised) and issues with his eyesight, dry eyes and light sensitivity, among other things. Once back on these steroids, he struggles with weight gain, which in turn affects his diabetes. The cycle of complications is ever compounding.
Nic is an amazing friend and volunteer. He serves on several steering committees at General Mills where he works, and donates his time during tax season do free Tax Preparation for low-income people. Despite his own needs, he focuses on what he can do for others in need and seeks opportunities to pay it forward. Too humble to ask for assistance, we as friends decided to ask on his behalf for assistance in purchasing a new bed that will better accommodate his health needs .
In the scheme of things, we are still so very grateful he is 7 years cancer-free! He is able to live a good life, go to work every day, and enjoy his family and friends. Finances are always an issue, but he deals well with it well and does what he can to make the very most of each day. Join us in helping him have a restful, restorative night’s sleep, so he can achieve optimum health despite his circumstances.
Thank you for your kindness and generosity!
Good Morning! I have created a daily discipline to fuel my creative needs – Daily Spark Art! I HAVE to create – and what better way to share these creations than by donating 20% of the proceeds from each piece daily to Starfish Tribe! We are currently working on this project – https://www.gofundme.com/a-need-for-nic/donate
Helping a young man with medical needs get a new bed! So – here is my featured canvas for today! Just follow the link to purchase – you get a great piece of art for only $75 to keep or gift (great for graduations), and Nic gets a bed – win, win!!
Bottom line – MOVE, EAT WELL, DO SOMETHING FOR YOURSELF EVERY DAY.
We have a day for giving thanks. We have two for getting deals. Now, we have #GivingTuesday, a global day dedicated to giving back. On Tuesday, December 2, 2014, charities, families, businesses, community centers, and students around the world will come together for one common purpose: to celebrate generosity and to give. I invite you to consider helping with awareness for a cause close to my heart.
We have so much – and some have so little. My friend Karen and I have started a fund to help one person at a time – remember the starfish story? http://bit.ly/StarfishStoryTK
Karen and I have both been warrior moms – through traumatic medical situations with our children – and are so grateful for everyone who helped when we needed it – we want to pay it forward.
Please visit our GoFundMe Page – http://www.gofundme.com/DJBrightviaStarfishTribe to read the story of this young man in Africa needing our help to support his family.
If you are able to donate, we are so grateful. Please do us an even bigger favor and please share our page with everyone in your network – the more people that are invited, the more successful our fundraiser will be.
Copy this link and share it in emails, on facebook, twitter, or anywhere else – https://www.gofundme.com/DJBrightviaStarfishTribe/
We can make a difference to this one… please give generously!
I have a favor to ask – we are starting an organization to help others.
Yes, I know.
One. More. Fundraising. Organization. UGH!
But wait… Our goal is this: to help others in need by raising awareness, and not necessarily money.
100% of everything will go to those we help. Those who put effort into it, will get nothing out of it as far as material means go… but we will get the satisfaction to know WE made a difference.
This is part of our pay it forward plan. We are not asking for money. We are asking for help in raising awareness. A simply page like. Thats it, and asking your friends to raise the awareness of others. We live in a world of abundance. We are lucky enough to live in a world of abundance.
We named the page Starfish Tribe. Without geographical boundaries… we are wanting to help others who are in a tough spot due to circumstances outside their control.
Know someone in need? Tell us. WE may not be able to help, but we can help them find someone who might be able to.
Their story will become our story. We will help to raise awareness.
Its a simple page like.
Its a simple request to ask your friends to become part of the Starfish Tribe.
Together we are many. Together we can help ONE.
Please help us help others who are in need just by raising awareness. The rest will happen on its own…and the good Lord will then provide as needed.
I want to introduce to my friend Endurance Bright Edeki – he is a young man that lives in Africa and I have been captivated by his story, and feel that there was a reason that our paths have crossed.
You may know that my son Nic survived a devastating illness starting in 2009. He is currently 4.5 years cancer-free and I am so very, very grateful for all the wonderful doctors, caregivers, friends and family that did so much to help us help him in his recovery!
My friend Karen Eckstrom – who herself has seen some amazing miracles during her daughter Heather’s journey through TWO liver transplants – and I have established a fund called the STARFISH TRIBE. The name here is so meaningful to us!
You may have heard the story of the starfish – it is sometimes told as follows:
“One day a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a figure in the distance. As he got closer, he realized the figure was that of a boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean. Approaching the boy, he asked, “What are you doing?” The youth replied, “Throwing starfish into the ocean. The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them in, they’ll die.” “Son,” the man said, don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish? You can’t possibly make a difference!” After listening politely, the boy bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it into the surf. Then, smiling at the man, he said, “I made a difference for that one.” (Adapted from The Star Thrower by Loren Eiseley)
So that brings us to ENDI – he is our starfish – please take a look at the GO FUND ME account we have set up for him –
Please listen to your heart and see if there is something there that encourages you to help make a difference to this one. He is just one man – in a far away country – but is honestly looking for a better life for himself and his family. I want to help him. I hope you want to as well – thank you for whatever you can do to help!